D8 PROFILE: Mexican’t S1, E 117
https://anchor.fm/dickmatized-sex-mems/episodes/Mexicant-ehj600
By DESIRaE M. wRIGHT
Age: 37
Height: 5’5
Body Type: Average
Exercise: Often -Gym rat
Education: Associates Degree – IT
Job: IT Guy
Race/Ethnicity: Mexican/American
Politics: Democrat
Religion: Catholic
Marriage Status: NM
Kids: Really wants some!
Pets: Ay, chihuahua! (dog)
Total # of D8s: 5
SEXual Relations? NO
Best SEX Position: IDK?
DICKmatization Rating [1 DICK (low) – 5 DICKs (Max): 2 DICKs
Playlist: La Bamba by Ritchie Valens, I Can’t Make You Love Me by Bonnie Raitt, Slut Like You by Pink
ABOUT HIM:
This guy was a bit younger than me, him 37, me 44. He was a short but nice Mexican American guy. Met him out at a bar mixer and he doesn’t even drink. I drink A LOT obvi lol! I give him my digits, so he calls and asks me out. He plans and pays for the entire D8. NICE. Acts very gentlemanly, doesn’t even attempt to kiss me. Starting out really good!
We go out a few more times nicely, still not kissing. Then one night he calls and tells me;” I just got a 20 something girl pregnant a couple weeks before we started D8ing. “WHAT??!! Says he can’t see me and he needs to deal with his sitch. Understandable.
5 months pass.
I’m surprised 2 see him out at a Speed D8?! He tells me that unfortunately the 20-something girl chose to get an abortion and he was really sad about it. He really wants kids and a big family.
We actually seemed to kinda hit it off again at the Speed D8 and seem to have some chemistry that was missing before. Maybe OUR timing is RIGHT now??!!
We start hanging out again as “Friends” talking about other people we were D8ing etc. The vibe was changing and it was starting to get really SEXually charged. We STILL HAD NEVER KISSED, but now I think we are both starting to really FEEL IT. At the time, He was casually D8ing someone and I was casually D8ing someone, but neither of us were committed at the time obvi since we saw eachother out at a Speed D8. So literally the timing was “good” we could have both told the other folks to take a hike since it was “casual” on both sides.
Well, since I’m a “friend” and all……. Instead of saying let’s both stop seeing others and really give this a try, surprisingly, he offers to be JUST my FWB (FRIEND with Benefits) because he says he feels like he is MORE N2 the girl he is currently D8ing; a divorce-pending, separated mother of 3. I told you he really wants kids! I unmarried, have no children (this must be where I was going wrong with this guy) and have little to no drama, and I get the nod for FWB?? WTF. Think he had his order backwards between me and him So I decline the FRIENDLY OFFER.
I Mexican’t.
A couple days later I notice that he had changed his status to “In A Relationship”.
1 Month passes.
He calls me and says that he and this other girl have broken up and he really wanted to apologize for how we ended it the 2nd time. He said he hadn’t intended to treat me or make me feel like a SLUT.
APOLOGY ACCEPTED. I actually don’t H8 this guy. I do think we shoulda given it a real try that 2nd time and he shoulda picked me. But, overall, I think he’s doing his best and we just were not a match. He is one of the rare dudes I still keep in touch with. So, no everyone, I’m not a man H8ter. I actually don’t H8 men at all. I just don’t understand them very well, I think.
DIsCKussion Questions:
- What are your thoughts on FWB’s? Have you ever had one? Have you ever offered to be one/asked someone to be yours?
- If you want a relationship, but someone says they are more into someone else, but they would “service” you in the mean time?
- Why do you think he’d want someone with kids and a pending divorce rather than someone with no kids and no pending divorce? Is he more into “unavailable” women?
- Is it ok to generally treat women like sluts?
- How about in bed, is that different?
- Do you think it’s a turn on/ok to be called a “slut” in bed?
- Should we “Slut Shame” women? Why do think that is still happening to women today in our “modern” society?
